WOMAN AND THE WORLD

Woman in governance perception

In many countries woman are regarded as the real bread winners of the families as the male counter species are regarded just as the head of the family or the commander in chief. In most developing nations by tradition man can marry as many woman as they wish, it is a symbol of wealth, power and should be respected. Woman’s rights are non the less not recognized in the marriage as they are the slaves to the man, they have to do whatever they are told by the man or else it’s a hush punishment that will affect her emotionally, mentally, physical or in any way.

Many of these woman are married at an early age its can be from nine years to whatever age for as long as they can bear children for their man or the heard oh the house. Most of it is based on poverty, poor government managements, population density, economic headships, culture, ethics and norms. The poor family would push their young daughter into marriage for the sake of hoping that their daughter will bring something for them in return or that the man is rich and the lobola might be high when they go for negotiations.

The daughter has no right to refuse to go or else she will be burned from the family or casted away from the family and they may say she is witched, the gods casted a spell on her and should be chased away from the family to go to the bush and no one should help her or else the person who will help her will he/her be casted a bad spell by the gods too and will have no lunch or his or her blessings will be taken by the gods. There are a number of unfounded reasons that the family will come up with for her to be married if she refuses she will be chased from her family to follow her husband

In many countries woman may have rights but in practice they don’t its just a hear say blab blab lblab blab a rights here and there, with big growing populations and the slums are also growing the employment issue becomes smaller getting a job is tough and hard. Often jobs that are found pay less than a U$1 per day or per week or per month, it just depend what kind or type of a job the person get, often these jobs are not guaranteed for a very long period of time the person can be fired at any time or told that there is no job any more so you must leave.

ONCE THE WOMAN IS IN MARRIAGE THERE IS NO WAY OUT, she will be in there until the husband does not like her or tell her to leave for whatever reasons. If the husband dies she will be inherited by other family members of the late husband just like a property and they have no rights to property of the diseased husband or any claim what so ever freedom of any kind, not even in her dreams. They are supposed to bear as many kids as the man wish, imagine in the U.S a woman can live without a kid or only one but in many slum countries or for example in Africa a woman can go up to fifteen or seventeen. This kind of bearing kids gives her too much back pain punishments but for her husband it is recognized as one of her duties in marriage. Often they are not allowed to refuse or talk back against their husbands or parents as it is recognized as a taboo.

When a woman only bears girls she will not be recognized and respected  as the other woman who has boys, this is given a reason that boys will grow up and feed the family but girls will just be the receivers and not the givers. So boys are given much priority than girls. In some other cultures, beliefs or norms the woman who only bears girls should be stoned or to be killed as they are a sign of a curse and bad luck. Girls are always considered weak and have no purpose apart for giving birth to kids, so boys are given priority and importance.

Some cultural or traditional stuff should be stopped when they are posing danger to our society, its for the best we don’t need to continue with them as they will lead us to know where but additional problems that will hurt and hamper our communities. An educated society is a better society as they will only focus on things that will positively lead them to a better life. In rural areas of any society is where most of the unwelcome practices are still being practiced and done in the end they stay the way they are and theycan’t move forward to the next level of livelihood.

Am glad many African countries most especially in the Southern Africa ladies are recognized as peoples with rights, they can work, talk on their behalf participate in their political part of their own choice and they are highly recognized as a success for a lady to hold or to be appointed in a bigger position like the current newly appointed African Union Chairperson. The appointment of her in office has given a bigger boost for African woman and a boost of recognition for woman worldwide.

Woman should be recognized for their role in the family they play, they are regarded as the back born of the family in many modern families, you will find that if there is no wife in the house absolutely things will not go according to how they are supposed to be, man will not survive without a woman in the house. Family wise woman are the glue to a family, they hold together the family.

BURNING OF LOBOLA

Woman should be respected equally they should respect themselves for them to earn respect they deserve in society. Should LOBOLA be dissolved and not recognized yes, its should be dissolved, WHY? LOBOLA is like selling a human being and it fuels poor families to get their young daughters full of dreams married to older man who will abuse them as they will repeatedly say they paid LOBOLA or many cattle to have them so mistakes have no room in their marriage.

LOBOLA is never good it should be labeled illegal, its an indirect way of selling young potential girls who have a bright future, who can doctors, nurses, teachers, engineers or be in any kind of profession of their choice. It limits the girls ability to have choices and to choose a life they really prefer.  It also reduces the country as a whole to function as a whole as people who are supposed to help are not there but they are locked up in houses of marriage that has no does of freedom.

LOBOLA is like buying love if you go in Southern Africa, the thing of forced marriage is over there out for a man to marry he has to pay an amount of lobola in a form of money or cattle or chickens or goats or sheep’s or any kind depending on agreements between families. LOBOLA was started long time in the 15 centuries, this was done so in the sense that for a father or his family to get something because the father raised her daughter, she is either well raised or the family is rich, she is either educated, or the family is poor, she is beautiful or the pain the daughter she will have to endear during labor it can be life threatening, it can be that she is a hard worker as she was raised. All these are the kinds of things that came into play and they are still considered during lobola negotiations.  Now because it took time and often costly in raising the daughter now the parents wants at list something as a token of appreciation or a payment that will compensate them on their burden. Children should be considered as a gift from god and how you will raise them it has no connection on how you want the person who will marry them to pay for them………….. LOBOLA also has some from for human trafficking to it but this one is within the families where the girls are raised and have no choice but to follow suit like it or not.

HOW CAN YOU SALE YOUR OWN DAUGHTER?

The world needs both man and woman to hold it together are a glue and to create a better society, a freedom society is necessary for everybody to proactively practice positivity and have better answers to a better society that everyone needs. They way we raise our kids is the answer to our future as we live, because a kid who is born among thieves will be a professional thief as things and technology changes, the technology of how to steal also changes on a one step feather than the technology itself.

The people who are voted in power positions should not live on the positions for luxury, people nowadays are hungry, they want food on the table for their families. Leaders must be warned that the world needs the better lives and the time for laziness sitting like a king is over, they will be booted out like what happened in Tunisia, Libya, Egypt and Syria. If they can’t deliver on what they promised during election campaigns then they have failed and they must be willingly step down as it supposed to be.